Recognising That Life Is a Journey - from the book Love Life, Stress Less

This is a chapter from my book Love Life, Stress Less. It's a handy little book packed full of pep talks that deal with some of the stresses and anxieties of modern life. I hope you love it. 

You can find out more over at Amazon. 

Photo by Jo Romero

Recognise That Life is a Journey

Without meaning to quote 1990s rock lyrics, it is true that life is most definitely a journey and not a means to an end destination. 

No one understands this better, in my opinion, than leather-clad, beardy bikers. 

Motorbike riders will arrange to meet up and go for a cup of tea in a greasy spoon café off some B-road somewhere. The person who knows the way rides at the front, and everyone else follows. They’ll fill up with fuel, don their leathers, gloves and helmets (safety first) and off they go. 

They’ll buzz up the road in a hazy puff of diesel in a glossy, twinkling, black and chrome convoy, passing sleepy villages, vibrant towns and sky-scraper-laden cities with the dull, throbbing boom of their engines. 

They’ll pass 500-year old thatched cottages, 1,000 year-old cobblestoned churches and glittering lakes with kingfishers ready to pounce on river fish gasping for a bubble of air. 

They’ll pass fields, either side of long, curving country roads, the vivid yellow, fragrant rapeseed stems swaying in the summer breeze.

They might spot, on the way, the house where local legend says a pop star or movie star lives and point it out to their pillion passengers, with a pointy, gloved index finger. They’ll see lots of pubs, some they’ll know and others that will be new to them. They’ll make mental notes to remember it for a potential Sunday lunch. On the bike, of course. 

They’ll wave and nod to bikers coming towards them in the opposite direction, and they might see a classic car or two as well. A glance to the left and they might spot a wild hare sprinting through the grass.

The sky on a bike seems to open up in front of you, no longer contained within the frame of a windscreen, roof and two wipers. It’s a vast expanse of blue, streaked with the odd milky-white cloud. A quick glance upwards and they might see a formation of buzzards - a crowd of swirling, gliding ‘v’ shapes - catching the air currents under their wings, scanning, beady-eyed, for prey. Probably for that hare. 

At the end of all this, they’ll get to the café, switch off the engines, loosen their jackets, remove their helmets and buy a tea in a chipped mug, the teabag left in and the milk in a jug on the counter for you to add yourself. They will gather around outside in the sunshine and chat about the ride, their bikes, families and work - but mostly about the bikes and the ride - and stay for maybe an hour before they head on home. 

And you’re telling me they go for the tea? 


The tea is just the end destination. But look at what they’ve experienced on the way. They haven’t driven an hour and a half just for a cup of tea, I’m telling you.

Life is like that. Don’t think that you need to get up at 6am, shower, eat and then race to work to sit for 8 hours a day because you want to be a huge success at your career and don’t have time for anything else. Set off on a journey through life, but don’t forego what happens on the way for the end result. Look out for the adventures.  Take a detour. Choose the scenic route. Look up around you as you go.

Life is hectic and it’s easy to jump on the busiest, most direct road and just get to where you’re going to next. But how about making a promise to yourself to slow it down a little, and be aware of what’s going on around you on the way there. 

Sit back, switch down a couple of gears and enjoy the ride.

You can find Love Life, Stress Less in paperback and Kindle ebook over on Amazon.